It’s either time to walk away or tell your partner that in order for the relationship to continue, they need to double down on resolving their issues and commit to the relationship.
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Sometimes, someone who is terrified of trusting would rather walk away and feel right than run the risk of the vulnerability of trusting you.
As a general guideline, if your partner persistently accuses you of cheating, or is consistently jealous and possessive, this is a code red alert. The relationship isn’t healthy. Control is not love.
You either have to walk away and cut your losses or have such clear and healthy boundaries that this person has to deal with themselves.
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I would say people who are that way are impossible to live with and should be dumped right away. I was married to a woman like that, and their accusations never go away- they get worse.
Yes, I’m guilty. My husband cheated on me in the past. He is currently out of the country. He said the guys he is with are seeing how many girls, ladies, women they can get before they leve that country. So guess what I got upset, sad, and began to cry. My husband is with these guys. So I’m questioning myself does my husband want to participate with these guys? He said for me to trust him, I do. I’m not crazy thouh when your weak in an error of your life and temptation is all around. I don’t know what to think. I don’t want ot make accusations. I realy thought I had forgiven him, but when he siad that I had a flashback. Oh my GOD, please help my husband and me. I have had tis on my mind all day. I can’t think right, what damage have done, in getting upset about this conversation. Please help. God Bless. Why can’t I get over this?? the past??
Goodnplump – You can’t get over this because it’s not resolved with you in some way and there is something that has prevented closure. Your husband has been insensitive but it’s one of those situations where if he hadn’t told you it wouldn’t have been great either. I think Dominicanos vs mujeres americanas that when he comes home, you both need to sit down and have an honest conversation about where you are both at, or attend marriage therapy. Some things are difficult to forget…
My partner accused me of cheating today. I’ve never felt so hurt in all my life, I’m totally against cheating and hardly dated before I met the partner I’m with today. It hurts so much when someone makes such a claim, especially when you trust them completely
I’d have to agree with goodnplump. I’ve accused my husband of cheating but its not like I haven’t had reason. He’s been caught lying about going out with friends and wanting to drink and party again, but if he lies about that what am I to believe about other things. I found condoms (although unopend) boxes but he says they were for us. I accuse him often especially after this. I guess because of the other lies and situations from the past that he’s been in are fishy, they don’t add up. Could I be looking too much into it and falsely accusing him, its possible, but tell my heart that he’s not lying. Oh, and to add to the lie he claims he stayed at his friends house, when he didn’t come home and after a big fight, he hasn’t been home in two days. Can lying really make someone look to far into something?
